Smart phones are ubiquitous in our society. When I see someone pull out a cell without a touch screen and internet capability, I feel like that person has time traveled from a century in the past, when in reality they have just neglected to upgrade in five years.
With the universal applications of modern smart phones, it is really the only device we need; combining the properties of computers, watches, phones, calendars, cameras, gaming systems, and more into one handheld unit.
But the relative “newness” of the smart phone means that there are no rules of etiquette in place for their use. Most people know that checking your watch is a sign of boredom and that it is rude to whip out a Gameboy during public events, but these same people don’t think twice about using the same applications on their cell phones.
Because your wedding is one of the biggest days of your life, it is not unreasonable to request a certain decorum of your guests regarding the use of cell phones, whether it is limiting their exposure or completely banning their presence.
One option is to declare your wedding to be “unplugged.” This means that electronics are strictly forbidden, which can apply to just the ceremony or the reception as well.
Another nuisance with wireless internet access is that guests get to announce your news before you do. When I get married, I’m sure that I want to be the one who tells all of my Facebook friends, not some random second cousin of my bride.
Completely banning cell phones might seem harsh, but it is really actually a reasonable concession. You make it clear on the RSVP card that attendance is based on agreeing to turn off your electronics. If a guest refuses this small request, then he can decline his spot. If someone is caught taking cell pictures, kick her out.
People may complain, but who cares?! It’s your wedding, so do what you please! You should be the focus of attention, not fantasy football updates or text messages.
Be firm with your decision and your best friends and family members will understand.